(Amy's note-- This has been in the making for a while, probably since the 'twin week' that Candace and I had. I'm pretty sure I said I'd blog the twin-ness if she did a guest post. So here it is! Enjoy!)
Amy handles it so well you wouldn't even know it, but allergies are really hard. Harder than you think.
When I first met Amy and learned about Caleb's allergies, I thought it was kind of novel. A hardship, sure, but also an excuse to try new food and cooking techniques. However, when I had to cut out dairy, eggs, soy, and wheat while breastfeeding my baby, I realized that cooking different foods for entertainment is very different from cooking different foods out of necessity.
My favorite Caleb-allergy experience happened a couple months ago. We took a Joy School field trip to HEB, the local grocery store. They do field trips all the time and regularly sample the same foods to each group, so our group leader told the store. No dairy, eggs, or beef. They were perfectly fine with that.
"We'll give him orange juice instead of chocolate milk", they said. "No sweat."
It started out well enough.
First stop, dairy department. The kids all had their little cup of chocolate milk and Caleb was happy with his little cup of orange juice.
Next stop, the cereal aisle. The women hand out baggies of Fruit Loops. As everyone is opening their little bag, Amy double checks the package and it's ok for Caleb to eat. A little concerning that the employees didn't ask before handing them out, but not a big deal.
Next, the deli aisle where they have cute little crackers with meat and cheese. As the employee is handing them out, Amy stops them.
"He can't have that, he can't have the cheese."
"Oh ok" the worker says, as she pulls the cheese off to give the now contaminated meat and cracker to Caleb.
"No, it touched the cheese! He can't have any of that!"
"Oh. Well how about the crackers out of the box?"
Amy checks the box and finds out the crackers have dairy. The employee settles this by asking the deli for a package of plain ham and Caleb tears into the large sandwich slices of meat with enthusiasm.
(amy-note---I wish I wish I WISH I had gotten a picture of Caleb and his ham; those were MANLY-sized portions he was tearing into. ;)
Next stop: the freshly store-made (and oh so delicious) tortillas. This time they remember to ask first and the tortillas are not Caleb-safe.
Meanwhile, four of Caleb's best friends are devouring these soft, white delights.
Poor Caleb. He'd been a trooper. Didn't even mind that his snacks were all slightly different from his friends. But when it looked like there were no tortillas for him, he started crying. The employees asked Amy if there was any brand they could give him and she knew just the one.
It's funny to see the progression here. They heard dairy, eggs, and beef and thought about the dairy, eggs, and beef they would offer the kids. Dairy = milk, so no milk. And they don't offer egg samples or beef samples, so no problem. But they didn't see the whole picture - the one that included dairy, egg, and beef ingredients. After a couple of close calls and one bitterly disappointed 3-year-old, they began to appreciate the scope of the allergies.
Our final stop was in the produce section. The woman hesitantly pulled out a bag of carrots.
"Are baby carrots ok for him to eat?" she asks.
LOL! Now they've taken it too far and they are officially afraid to give any food to Caleb.
Bonus points to Amy for not saying, "Are there dairy, eggs, or beef in those carrots?"

amy-note--
He lived, though, and at least learning to scan things in the check-out was Caleb safe. :)